The Selfie Generation

Every generation has its marks that people remember them by. Proverbs 30 describes four types of generations. Verse 13 describes one generation this way – “There is a generation, O how lofty are their eyes! and their eyelids are lifted up.” If there was a simple, yet accurate description of the generation of young people and young adults today, we could call them the selfie generation. Solomon may have said it this way – “There is a generation, O how many selfies fill up their cloud data. Their filters wash their imperfections and appease their insecurities with every like and comment.”
Selfies are not just a type of photography; they are the way of a generation. A study ten years ago showed that women ages 16 to 25 spent about 5 hours per week taking and editing selfies. Many will obsess over the angle, the lighting, the position of their hair, the background, etc., etc., etc. This screams insecurity! More accurately put, this can be called “selfie dysmorphia”. This is the obsession with perfecting the imperfections with a filter, an editing program, or lighting manipulation. A generation of girls (and boys) have grown up looking into a lens that isn’t concentrated on God’s landscape, others, family, and helpful information, but a lens looking right back at themselves. This is a recipe for disaster for many, but especially for young people!
The greatest error that one can make with social media (in my humble opinion) is the promotion of self. I personally get bothered with even the title of influencer. Because 99.9% of these wannabe celebrities find their fulfillment in the adoration of a following that can hardly be characterized as real relationships and a life that is strictly digital. This is not to say that posting anything online of us is wrong, but it’s quite easy to find accounts that are filled with self-portraits, varying from borderline nudity to a cringey “look at me” posterboard.
Before you get defensive and accuse me of ranting about a pet peeve, I’d encourage you to study what Proverbs and the rest of the Bible says about the elevating of one’s self. Proverbs 27:2 says, “Let another man praise thee, and not thine own mouth; a stranger, and not thine own lips.” And no, that doesn’t mean posting a selfie and waiting for all of the comments to flood in about how stunning you look. Selfies scream for an invitation for praise, and that’s why people share them most of the time.
My heart aches for the young girls in our generation that think that they need to become a social media phenomenon and will sacrifice the purity of their bodies for the praise of strangers online. Too many girls are marketing their bodies for free for perverts and reprobates. Each generation can do better, and parents can do better to monitor this.
Parents, don’t let your children take a lot of selfies, whether they post them or not. This should be a huge red flag to the internal thoughts and battles that your kids may be facing. Nothing good will come of it.
Parents, don’t let your children post a lot of selfies. I’m not accusing a selfie of being sinful, but excess in this shows signs of depression and severe insecurity issues, not to mention safety concerns.
Women, I beg you to have discretion with your social media. Get a man’s opinion (a godly man) on your account. If he’s willing to tell the truth, he’ll tell you what can appear to give the wrong message. You do not need a thousand digital followers to make you feel beautiful and special. If you have a man at home who made sacred vows together with you, then there is only one person that you should need to fill that void in your soul.
Men are normally the smallest group in this area, but this is a concern for all ages and genders. Men shouldn’t need praise from the world, nor should they feel the need to display their masculinity for others to praise.
This is not a call for a ban of any picture/selfie of yourself that you may have on your accounts. I would be hypocritical if that were the case. This is, however, a call for visiting an area of concern with how we view ourselves, where we find the solution to fix the insecurities that many will face, and showing wisdom with how we portray ourselves for free for the public to see. The studies in this area are not Christian and they are not very complex to understand. Social media should not be used for self-promotion, or you will pay the consequences for it in your heart and with your relationships. I guarantee it.









